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What should I do when a loved one with dementia is having a panic attack?

June 22, 2012

When a person with dementia is having a panic attack, what should you do? Ask what he is afraid of or reassure him that everything is okay? He will be 88 years old this year.

Trying to explain away fears in the middle of a panic attack - when your family member's heart might be racing, breathing is shallow, and feelings of terror are overwhelming - almost never works. While it's happening, be supportive and comforting. Repeat simple phrases like "you're going to be okay" or "we'll take care of the problem." Be lavish with your hugs.

Panic attacks can come out of nowhere, but when they are associated with dementia, there is often a trigger. When the attack is over and your loved one is calm, look back on the situation. What might have caused it?

Could it be something in the environment, such as a visit from a neighborhood pet or some overly active children? Is the room dark and full of shadows, confusing or scaring the person?

Was the person afraid of being abandoned or afraid that something has happened to a family member? The profound forgetfulness and confusion of dementia can trigger panic attacks. Reminders and reassuring words can help in these situations.

Could it have to do with the time of day, especially if the attacks seem to occur at the same time? One family whose mother was panicky in the evening found that things improved when they increased the indoor lighting and kept the lights on bright, particularly during dusk and late afternoon.

Visual hallucinations common with Lewy Body dementia can also frighten the person and cause panic. In these cases, ask the person to tell you more about what he or she is seeing and make an appropriate response. For example, if he is seeing a stranger in the backyard, let him know that you will investigate things and make sure the house is locked up. You might even add some reassuring words, "It's probably just that sweet neighborhood boy who likes to explore."

I recall a person I worked with years ago in the Best Friends adult day center in Lexington, Kentucky. He would have panic attacks or angry spells but we could often see them coming. When we began to see his mood change or darken, a quick pat on the back, ice-cream cone or some special attention would stop the behavior before it escalated.

Behavior like panic attacks can accompany dementia. When you respond in a thoughtful, creative and confident manner it will help calm the person and help him feel safe, secure and valued.

Thoughts and stories from others

  1. December 3, 2012 at 12:29 pm
    Posted by Mary

    My mother whom lives with me and I've been caring for her over 13yrs has the very same disease. We can be here for each other if you like, I'm at lost of words too.
  2. August 6, 2012 at 03:14 pm
    Posted by Gloria Martin

    In response to the panic-attack question...Dad had Lewy Body dementia and hallucinations which brought on attacks. One day, he was trying to move furniture. My husband simply posed the question, "Dad, what would you like to do?" "Move the furniture." "Dad, how can I help you?" "Help me unblock the door." In the mirror of the vanity, Dad had seen the reflection of the door across the room. Dad's reality was where we needed to be, not ours, in order to help him. After moving a few things and looking behind the mirror, the panic attack was worked through with a completed task
  3. August 3, 2012 at 09:17 pm
    Posted by Marion Queen

    A stick of gum helps with the hyper ventilating.
  4. August 3, 2012 at 08:43 pm
    Posted by Jean Crews

    My husband has Frontal Lobe Dementia. He has trouble communicating and understanding what people are saying. I have virtually no close support system, and I often get frustrated. Can any one give me some tips to cope?
  5. August 3, 2012 at 04:18 pm
    Posted by Jodi

    Redirect with encouragement. " I am right here with you and everything is okay. This is the day that the Lord hath made and I am rejoicing over the hydrangea blooming. What beautiful colors of pink and blue - Do you remember Rosie's hydrangea's Mom - you know on the east side of her house and then I go on and on about the colors and sweet Rosie (who was a friend of my Mom's about 50 yrs. ago) She settles down and forgets the panic.

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