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"I Will Remember for You℠" Alzheimer's Music Video

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Oh the places you used to go,
All the people you used to know,
The stories that you loved to tell
About a life that you lived so well.

It’s fine, you can rest if you want to.
I will remember for you,
I will remember too.

Music is just a story with a melody. The song “I Will Remember for You” played in the video to the right tells the story of a couple touched by Alzheimer’s disease. It was written and performed by Home Instead Senior Care staff member Dave Mainelli, and is inspired by all the families they have met who are keeping the memories alive for loved ones experiencing memory loss. Music powerfully communicates emotion and narrative, making it an excellent tool to evoke memories for those living with Alzheimer’s or other dementias.

The Power of Music

A drum beat, a guitar strum, a melody, a song. A toe tap, a finger snap, and soon you’re humming along. Music can move us emotionally and physically without us having to even think about it. Its power to reach past the mind and touch the soul has a soothing therapeutic effect particularly beneficial to someone with Alzheimer’s disease or other dementias.

A study published in the Journal of Music Therapy1 demonstrated that playing familiar background music helped to increase positive social behaviors in people with Alzheimer’s and decrease negative behaviors related to agitation.

Music has also been proven to drastically decrease anxiety and depression in people with Alzheimer’s disease, according to a study published in the Journal of Dementia and Geriatric Cognitive Disorders 2. One caregiver summed up her experience with music saying that she would wake her husband up every morning to the Louis Armstrong song, “Wonderful World,” and “He always started the day in a great mood.”

Even when the usual means of communication become inhibited by the effects of Alzheimer’s or other dementias, those experiencing memory loss still remember and respond to music.

You can leverage the power of music in a number of different ways to lift the spirits of a family member with dementia and unlock memories from long ago.

One way is to create a “life soundtrack” that includes memorable songs from your loved one’s childhood, teenage, young adult and older years. Research the top hits from each decade of your loved one’s life, find out what songs were played at his or her wedding, and pick out some well-loved hymns or carols. If your family member with dementia used to play a musical instrument, include music featuring that instrument as well.

You can also encourage your family member with dementia to not just listen but take part in the music making. According to Preserve Your Memory magazine3, singing daily has a positive effect on one’s mental state. Many senior centers and other community organizations provide opportunities to sing with a group, play an instrument (even if just a woodblock or tambourine), or simply clap along. And when you play the soundtrack you created for you loved one, sing along together. You may be surprised how many lyrics your loved one still remembers by heart.

Sources:

1. Journal of Music Therapy, Winter 2007: “The Effect of Background Stimulative Music on Behavior in Alzheimer’s Patients”

2. Journal of Dementia and Geriatric Cognitive Disorders, July 2009: “Effect of Music Therapy on Anxiety and Depression in Patients with Alzheimer’s Type Dementia”

3. Preserve Your Memory, Winter 2011: “Celebrating Senior Sounds.”

Thoughts and stories from others

  1. October 25, 2013 at 04:08 pm
    Posted by Juli

    My 91 year old mother passed this June 13, 2013. I had just got through with my husband who passed here at home with Alzheimer's and bone cancer 2 year's prior. I am so lonely and look back and see where I could have done a lot of things different...Alzheimer's patient's are so much in need of touch, and reassurance they are safe and at home, surrounded by their loved ones. My mom would get sundowners and she would cry and rock back and forth. (in the evening. She didn't sleep at night~~and neither did I. I would try to talk her down and it didn't work.
  2. August 7, 2013 at 08:29 pm
    Posted by Linda Price

    My spouse is only 60 and has suffered with this disease for going on 4 yrs. now. I had him in one Alzheimers unit and he became combative so they literally kicked him out, called the police and sent him to the hospital where all they did is drug him up until he was a zombie. Finally he got placement 3 hrs. away from our home for med adjustments for 20 days I then brought him home for a week and he is now in another home on a trial basis. Don't know what I'll do if this fails because that one week of caring for him was very scary for me because of all his meds,etc.
  3. June 21, 2013 at 02:36 am
    Posted by florence johnson

    this still wasn't too bad. then the sundown syndrome began to get bad. he would walk the floor from 4:00 in the evening until time for bed, he would refused to sit and watch t. v. . when trying to redirect him, he became very agitated wanting to fight. then i knew i needed help. i received a book 36-hour which helped me understand what i was up against. this book showed me what i was doing wrong. it also helped me to stop thinking that i was capable in help[ng him cope with this illness and it's progression. please find a copy and read the book.
  4. June 21, 2013 at 02:15 am
    Posted by florence johnson

    i just admitted my husband today (6/20/13) to a nursing home because of this dreadful illness. the articles i just read helped me to know that many families are in the same boat as i am. for me to get through the guilt, sorrow, abandonment i try to remind myself that i did the best i could to help my husband. he was diagnosed with this illness in 2008. it has progress this year. from not wanting to bathe getting very volliatle when asked to bathe, love moving things out of place (when asked to stop he would get very upset), he threw things in the trash such as car keys

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