Telling a Loved One that a Family Member is Deceased
Gauge your loved one’s memory. If your loved one does not remember what you share about the family member from day to day, you may be able to use a memory or a story about the family member to explain their absence in away that satisfies their curiosity, but doesn’t upset them.
Try to understand your loved one’s reality. Perhaps this will help you let go of the guilt you feel from not telling the cold, hard truth.