My mom has gotten into the habit of saying “Help me. Help me” over and over again. We ask her what is wrong and she says nothing. Then goes back to saying it again. This can go on for hours. How can we stop this from happening?
This is a common phrase issued by people with dementia. Many times, they are scared and confused and this is their way of communicating to others that something isn’t right, they need help working through the changes and differences they are feeling as their brain isn’t working the way it used to. It can be hard to listen to these words over and over, as you are used to needing to rush to help someone when they are uttered. There is also the possibility she is hurt. Has she fallen? Are any extremities like her legs or arms tender or she is not using them as much? Have you checked to see if she has a low grade fever? Once you are certain she is physically fine, try to engage her in a conversation to let her know you are there, you aren’t going to abandon her and if she needs help with something you will be there. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to stop her from repeating this mantra over and over. You may want to have a visit with her physician, as they will know her specific medical history and can give her a complete check up.
In the meantime, try doing some activities with her, have her keep company with a cherished pet and remind her how much you love her.