My sister lives with our 92 year old mother who is showing signs of Alzheimer’s. My mom is very upset, mad, forgetful and accusing people of stealing money or not giving her food. What advice do you have?

It is all too common for people with dementia to become paranoid and irrational. There is no rationalization or this could be a defense mechanism for your Mom who might feel out of control and scared. I would talk to her physician about her new symptoms. If possible, I would not recommend medication, but seek to calm her fears and work to alleviate the agitation she is displaying. You might be able to distract her with music or stories. There are many options to help, but each person is unique and it may take several attempts before finding the magic solution. Even then, it could change from day to day. Your patience will be tested for sure, but in the long run you will come out ahead if you are able to help her. That being said, you may not be able to and may have to follow guidelines and suggestions from her doctor.

3 thoughts on “Mom accuses people of not giving her food. What should we do?

  • Geri

    Thanks for this info. I’m the caregiver for my 95 year old Mother. She has some of these symptoms you mentioned. It does require patience but the emotions of sadness can be overwhelming at times . Thank you for the post.

  • Sandra

    I have found it helps to have something on hand as a distraction away from the topic, such as a surprise gift or or food, such as a big cookie, a vase of fresh flowers, a book to read to her, a very pretty picture. Anything that can take her mind off the complaint and lighten the mood. Not to say the subject won’t be repeated but lots of times it worked for me.

  • Patricia Cornell

    I am glad I have you as a resource. I have no question now but will save your number for a later time.

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