My brother wants to move my 91-year-old mother, who has stage 5 or 6 dementia, from California to Hawaii next year. What is your advice for us?

My brother wants to move my 91-year-old mother, who has stage 5 or 6 dementia, from California to Hawaii next year. He is successor trustee of her trust, but does not have a durable power of attorney. Three of her five children think it is better to keep her in… Read More

My mom has dementia and resides in a nursing home. She has very vivid ideas and thoughts about people, activities, and situations. She is totally convinced that these things are real. What is the best way to deal with this?

My mom has dementia and resides in a nursing home. She has very vivid ideas and thoughts about people (some real and some imagined), activities (like giving birth to several children who are being taken care of by others) and situations (she uses a wheelchair but “travels” to work, home… Read More

When should I worry about sleep patterns? He sleeps sometimes 16 hours a day. Is this normal or caused by medication or boredom?

When should I worry about sleep patterns? He sleeps sometimes 16 hours a day. Is this normal or caused by medication or boredom? Navigating the day can be stressful for someone with Alzheimer’s. Every decision or choice or action takes so much effort! This is one reason dementia can simply… Read More

In just a matter of weeks, my 69-year-old sister, diagnosed with Alzheimer’s/Lewy-Body Syndrome about three years ago and went from walking, talking, eating, and living at home to being bed-ridden in a nursing home on Hospice. She has to be fed and barely comprehends anything that is said to her. Doesn’t this seem like a rapid decline? I suspect her daughter, her primary caregiver, had something to do with it. She met a man and began to neglect her mother, leaving her without calling or checking on her for days at a time. I want to help her get back on her feet, but is this is even possible now?

In just a matter of weeks, my 69-year-old sister, diagnosed with Alzheimer’s/Lewy-Body Syndrome about three years ago and went from walking, talking, eating, and living at home to being bed-ridden in a nursing home on Hospice. She has to be fed and barely comprehends anything that is said to her…. Read More

It’s pretty clear (from tests) that I’m headed for a major dementia. What can I do to “plan” the rest of my life so that I and my family can live with it?

It’s pretty clear (from tests) that I’m headed for a major dementia. What can I do to “plan” the rest of my life so that I and my family can live with it? I’m sorry you’ve had this medical news from what I assume is a competent neurological exam. More… Read More

Why does my husband crave sweets? He was never a sweet eater before he came down with AD.

Why does my husband crave sweets? He was never a sweet eater before he came down with AD. I smiled when I read your question since my mother Dorothy, who passed away with Alzheimer’s in 2009, loved her ice cream (sometimes three times a day) and like your husband, was… Read More

When my mother-in-law gets ready for a bath or for bed, she swears like a sailor. Please help.

I am a caregiver for my mother-in-law. When she gets ready for a bath or for bed she swears like a sailor. We tell her that’s not nice then she starts hitting and spitting. Please help. I’m sorry that you are having this challenging situation. I talk to many women… Read More

When Your Loved One Can’t Find Words

Unfortunately, Alzheimer’s disease can rob people of speech. For example, a loved one with Alzheimer’s might have trouble finding words to express himself, or will find herself unable to finish sentences. This can be a frustrating experience. When this happens, you might be able to “carry” the conversation simply by… Read More

Preventing Your Loved One From Anxiety and Agitation

Work as a family to come up with solutions. Keep a food diary. Plan ahead and don’t over-schedule. Observe patterns in your loved one’s behavior. Read More

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Our experts dispense practical information about non-medical matters associated with caregiving, aging, Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias. They are not medical doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, lawyers, accountants, brokers or financial advisers (“Professional Adviser”) and hold no license or degree required to practice any such profession. No Professional Adviser-client, or other relationship… Read More