Sometimes, it can be hard to get a person with Alzheimer’s or dementia to express their preferences. When asked how they’re feeling, they might always say “fine”—or when asked what they want, they may always say “I don’t want anything”
It can be hard to be patient when you ask questions, and don’t get the kinds of answers you expect. But rather than putting the person on the spot and asking them to explain complex feelings or answer an open-ended question, try giving them choices. “Would you like to take your bath now, or after dinner?”, or “Would you like soup or chicken for dinner?”
This approach can give them a sense of independence, and also make it easier to accomplish your goal (e.g., getting them to eat or bathe).
You can also ask simple questions that only require a “yes” or a “no.”