Making a decision on whether or not to move your loved one into a care facility can be challenging. Everyone’s situation is different. It is important to keep safety and well-being top-of-mind for the individual living with dementia and the primary caregiver. You may try help in the home for a period of time and find that is a great solution for all involved. For some, that works indefinitely and for others, it may only work for a short period of time. When it is right to make a move to a facility, be sure to research your options and take a thoughtful approach the move. It is also helpful to hear how other caregivers have handled the situation. Here is one caregiver’s story: “I just wanted to share a short piece of advice. My mother- just turned 86- always extremely strong willed and difficult and now in midstage Alzheimer’s was struggling in her own home for the last few years. It was a constant source of stress for me as I live an hr away. I spent a night or two every week, hired caregivers … did her shopping, took her to appts, neglected my own family, was going from one crisis to another. I won’t tell you how many injuries, weeks I stayed…she told me she’d kill herself if I moved her out of her home. She’d have screaming tantrums…finally after dehydration and falls I put my foot down. As her only family member and having been bullied by her my whole life it was hard! I found the best place and had back up help take her out for moving day. I hired helpers- do it if you can!! She was mad, but within 2 days she was perfectly fine!!! She looks and sounds better than she has in months. She is making friends. She is busy. She is eating better. Should have done it a year ago. You know what is right. Don’t reason with the unreasonable. Just take good loving care of them. It helped bringing her familiar things. I can breathe at last. Maybe my eye will stop twitching now? Good luck!”