When a Memory of an Event is just Wrong!

It’s hard to win an argument with a person with dementia. It’s okay to gently cue but it doesn’t help to argue or correct. If your loved one says President Eisenhower is doing a great job, say “I like Ike too.” It’s important to go with their reality and flow. Read More

Tips to Minimize Your Loved One’s Confusion

Plan an activity with your family member. Keep a journal. Read More

Fixation on Particular Things

First, try to redirect your loved one to a different topic. If that doesn’t work, try to find why they might be fixated on a certain topic. If it’s clothes, maybe they liked to shop in the past. If it’s food, maybe they enjoyed cooking. Read More

Telling a Loved One that a Family Member is Deceased

Gauge your loved one’s memory. If your loved one does not remember what you share about the family member from day to day, you may be able to use a memory or a story about the family member to explain their absence in away that satisfies their curiosity, but doesn’t… Read More

When Your Loved One Doesn’t Recognize You

When someone is at a stage where they are no longer recognizing people, even if they recognize some people but not others, it can be helpful for everyone to say their name and who they are. So, for example, you can assume they may not remember you and simply walk… Read More

When Your Loved One Thinks You’re Someone Else

You can chat with your loved one about the person they are mistaking you for, or ask about something related to them. The important thing is to not try to get her to understand or to make her wrong. For example, if they call you by their brother’s name and… Read More

Loved One is Recently Diagnosed and Embarrassed

You may want to consider having an open relationship with your loved one. You can share with them that you have noticed they get embarrassed when they forget things, and they aren’t as open to doing the things you used to do together. They might be appreciative if you ask… Read More

Handling False Accusations

It can be very distressing to be accused of things you aren’t doing. The best thing you can do is not to argue with your loved one or try to get them to see the reality of the situation. They aren’t able to understand. If they are accusing you of… Read More

Advice on Helping Your Loved One When They’re Confused

It is common to want to be sensitive when your loved one is doing something not quite right, but it is always beneficial to tell them. Do it with some kindness. For example, don’t say, “Mother, you are doing this all wrong—do it this way!” Instead, try, “Mom, let me… Read More

When Your Loved One Doesn’t Remember Where They Are

As your loved one enters this stage of Alzheimer’s, it is difficult to adapt to answering questions like, “Where am I?” Explain patiently to them where they are, and make sure they know they are safe and in a place of love. At home, consider keeping some trinkets or physical… Read More