1. Recall past traditions of the person—make their favorite mincemeat pie.

  2. Celebrate in smaller groups—attend a religious service off hours, or enjoy your own spiritual readings/traditions.

  3. Do some simple chores together. Wrapping presents is a good one: “Mother, do you like the red bow or the green ribbon?”

  4. Use the holidays as a chance to share appreciation and support with friends and family who have helped.