Overview: Hostility

Your loved one may be hostile or belligerent because they lost the ability to understand or remember. It’s important for families to understand the disease is the culprit. Let’s face it: dementia changes everything, including the person with the disease. Your loved one may be pleasantly confused or become agitated… Read More

Quick Tips for Caregivers Dealing with Hostile Residents

Keep angry residents apart from each other. Provide assuring words and meaningful activity. Read More

Preventing One From Becoming Hostile

Involve the family to learn about the best approaches to keep your loved one calm. Determine your loved one’s “hot buttons” to minimize hostility. Focus on simplifying the environment to help prevent outburst. Read More

Communication With Your Loved One on Hostility

“Dad, I know you’re upset with me now. When you’re ready to talk, I’m here for you.” “Mom, I’m sorry I stepped in to your tie your shoes. I thought you needed help, but I should have asked.” “Dad, I know it’s hard to wait for your grandson to mow… Read More

How to Manage Your Family Member When They are Hostile

Your demeanor and a confident and helpful tone will show in your face and voice. When something upsets your loved one, keep your emotions in check. Hostility masks what your loved one does not know—curtail the hostility by apologizing and taking the blame. Opposition is a sign that your loved… Read More

Advice for Caregivers Dealing With Hostility

Avoid “hot buttons”. Respite doesn’t need to be an expensive vacation. Maintain a healthy diet and try to exercise. Search for day care if needed. Be kind to yourself. Don’t take anything personally—advise a caregiver. Read More

5 Tips To Communicate When Your Loved One Becomes Hostile

Focus on feelings. Avoid yes/no questions. Show empathy. Develop a posture of love, concern, helpfulness, and confidence. Listen. Read More

A Loved One Needs to be Evaluated for Dementia but Won’t Cooperate

A situation like this can be very stressful for everyone involved. Seeing how your loved one is doing and talking face-to-face is very important. You could start by sharing what you have observed and asking what your loved one thinks is going on. Offer specific observations, delivered calmly and in… Read More

How Do I Turn “No” Into a “Yes”?

Home Instead Senior Care, a leading provider of Alzheimer’s in home care, trains their professional CAREGivers to try three times, in three different ways, to turn a no into a yes. Here’s an example of how you can use that technique with your family member: Let’s say you are trying… Read More