A situation like this can be very stressful for everyone involved. Seeing how your loved one is doing and talking face-to-face is very important. You could start by sharing what you have observed and asking what your loved one thinks is going on. Offer specific observations, delivered calmly and in a loving tone. If your loved one agrees that there is a problem, you can then ask he or her what they think needs to be done. If your loved one doesn’t bring up the idea of going for a thorough assessment, you can speak to the advantages of being prepared and taking action early. This is in this person’s best interests. You might reassure him or her and say that it might be nothing, but better to be safe and know for sure.

If this doesn’t work, try speaking directly about your own feelings. Very often, people will do something they don’t want to do out of love for the person making the request.

It may benefit you to read The 40/70 Rule, published by Home Instead Senior Care. This wonderful resource contains scenarios and responses based on real-life experiences. Communication expert and author Jake Harwood, Ph.D., from the University of Arizona helped develop the content.

Don’t give up. Try a variety of approaches with your loved one.