• “I’d be so happy if you would come with me to the church picnic,” rather than, “Would you like to go to the church picnic?”

  • “Mom, I know you didn’t want to go to lunch with Shirley. But Shirley wants to see you because she has some important news. Let’s get your coat.”

  • “If you don’t want to go to coffee with the guys today, let’s walk around the block and see your old friend Joe.”

  • “Mom, I know you’re nervous about going to bridge club. Let me go with you and be your coach.”

  • “Dad, why don’t you come into the kitchen and join in the conversation. Tell us one of your famous fishing stories.”

  • “Mom, should we go out to lunch with your sister or have her over to the house?”